7 step system for lasting lifestyle change

I used to be a person who almost never stuck to anything in the long run. I was missing some seriously important skills. Plus, I had a major block that was preventing me to change that: my beliefs. In the last years I’ve developed a solution for people like me. I called it a 7 step system for lasting lifestyle change. 

vision, mission, goals, strategy and action plans - diagram sketch on a napkin with cup of espresso coffee

I know there are many of you out there not taking action to improve your life, even though you know you can do better than this.

Today I know that how you see yourself usually has very little to do with your true self. You know, the person your could be if you unleashed all of your potential?

I used to see myself as a person who never finishes what she started. That didn’t make me feel very good about myself, or put me in the best of mood.

Of course my behavior followed.

Your behavior always, always follows your beliefs.

So if you want to make a change, you have to take control over your beliefs.

What made the change

Everything changed for me when I read my first so called self-help book. It was Robin S. Sharma’s The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari. I had so many aha moments while reading that book. Of course dozens of other books followed rapidly. I must have read a hundred of self-help books in that first year.

What did I learn

I learned that all of us, yes, every single one of us, has endless possibilities in life … which unfortunately most of us never live to see. Because of our beliefs. Our fears. Because of the environment we live in. Or just to make someone else happy.

All of us have desires inside of us. Dreams we’ve forgotten about because we were told to stop dreaming.


Don’t stop dreaming.

You’re entitled to your dreams.

You’re entitled to making them your goals.

And you’re entitled to achieve them.

7 step system for lasting lifestyle change

7 step system for lasting lifestyle change


In order to make your life better, first you have to figure it out what that means to you. And I mean career-wise, health-wise, relationship-wise, money-wise, spirituality-wise… you name it. Think about it long and hard, because your future happiness and present sense of fulfillment depend on it. Help yourself with this exercise: if your great great great grandchildren were to find your book of life, what would you like there to be written in it?


Now that you have a somewhat clear picture of who you want to be, what are the means that will get you from where you are to where you see yourself in the future? What will you have to do, learn or change to become that person?


Every company before starting a business or even launching a new product does a thorough analysis of the possible threats they may find on the way to achieving their company goals. Knowing threats allows you to prepare for them and think about the plan B.


Writing a plan helps you stay on track, measure progress and focus your energy on taking the right action.


If you want different results, you will have to do things differently. You will have to change many of your old, unproductive habits with new ones. Written schedule is the key.


Motivation is one of the key ingredients of long-term success. Write your affirmations in base of your vision of your future-self. Don’t forget about the emotional component.


The mood you’re in greatly influences your emotions, emotions influence your behavior and your behavior determines your future. So make sure you keep confirming your (new) belief: regularly read your written affirmations and keep that mood up.

Written by:

Tanja, your wellness and success coach